It may seem completely opposite of what I’ve been blogging about the past few weeks – but I’m not making any resolutions in 2015. If you’ve been reading my blog, you know that I get psyched about systems, vision planning, and getting ideas on paper.
There is nothing more I love than goal setting. My problem in the past has been that I set too many goals and lack follow through because I became overwhelmed. Don’t get me wrong, given the perfect storm, I can achieve anything! I’ve come up with systems for myself to get stuff done now. It’s worked well for me most of the time. I’ve opened businesses, lost lots of weight and gained lots of muscle, learned new things, and even wrote and published my first online course this fall – a goal I have pursuing for years.
But I’m reminded that I can’t control everything. While it’s great to have goals (even goals I feel are well aligned with my purpose) there is the God element (as I like to call it). The part of the equation that we have no control over – the things we can’t predict, and the reason why sometimes, the best laid plans often go awry (to paraphrase Robert Burns).
The God element is having $10 left to budget for the month and you want to join a gym that costs $20 a month (time to get creative with weights at home…do more with less). The God element is wanting to connect with your spouse, but your husband has to work more hours than expected (make the moments matter). The God element is wanting to build an empire, but having trouble just getting traffic to your website (practice content building while no one’s looking! It will make your mistakes seem like less of a big deal.)
I’ve had the tendency to let these setbacks throw me off track. By February 1st, I’m already feeling defeated. By June 1st, I don’t even remember the resolutions I’ve made. I used to see the God element as a finger pointing in my face saying, “I told you you can’t do this!” But that’s not what he was saying at all. He was saying, “Let go a little bit. Let me show you what you need to do.”
So this year, there are no resolutions for me. I’ve spent much of November and December writing down goals, ideas, and outlines. Realistically, though, I’m having a third baby. My family is going to experience a tremendous shift in our dynamic, there is no way I can hold myself to all I want to achieve this year because I don’t know what this year will look like. This is the beauty of letting things happen as they will and accepting change with grace.
Some creative folks are choosing their “one little word” for 2015, and I’ve chosen my “one big phrase”: LIVE LIFE WITH INTENTION. I intend not to “float” through life this year, to be alert, to pay attention, to be mindful of my words and my actions. I intend to use the gifts God gave me however I can, and when my plans don’t work out, I intend to let God guide me. I trust Him. He knows what’s up.
I refuse to let expectations I place on myself keep me from doing good things next year. It’s been a heckuva 2014, but I think the best year of my life in so many ways. I’ve learned what a shift in perspective can do for my life and for my business. It’s all about grace, my friends. And it’s what I hope you bring with you this week as you begin your new year. ★